Last weekend I threw an epic 70th birthday party for my parents (who met their freshman year of college). I use the word “epic” with perhaps a different connotation than most kids use it today. It wasn’t wild, extravagant or over the top in any way. It was just amazing. Picture fifty people - family and my parents closest friends, drinking, eating, and taking turns toasting two people that have had their heads on straight their whole lives. My parents work hard, they are dedicated to the people they love, they don’t wish for extravagant things - but instead, are grateful for the blessing of a “normal” day. They have plenty of fun – mostly by way of great laughs with friends over a cup of coffee, a glass of wine or a good meal. They live by simple values, and they are totally extraordinary. They “define” success, as their friends remarked. Not because of material wealth, or worldly accomplishments – but simply because they are honest and real, and surrounded by love. They are not perfect - they have failed and done the wrong thing and they have had regrets - and they are not afraid to talk about them. We all want to be “self-actualized” – but what does that really mean? What are the achievements that are most important? Where do we prioritize our relationships with friends and family, our health and time for self–care, our play time (as opposed to social time)? When I look back on my 20’s – I think of the fun I had with my crazy beautiful friends - not the times I was cramming for a test in grad school or stressing over something at work. I think of the amazing yoga classes I used to take in the east village and the personal growth I was constantly engaged in. Are we (am I?) still making enough of those kinds of memories? Are we nurturing our lives from the inside out?